> Erin~
> 
> Okay, first, allow me to fill in all the facts since
> it is obvious you're reacting without having all the
> information...
>
> The night that Loren was there (Thursday) when you
> got home, nothing was planned.  Loren took me to cash my
> check and since we knew you were at work, we stopped
> by to hang out with Kenney.  Neither I nor Kenney
> thought she would stay and hang out once we started
> smoking, but she did.  As a matter of fact, her
> original plan was to eat her dinner and then leave,
> but we were having fun so her plans changed.  Since
> we are both still good friends with her, this was a
> very cool thing because as you know, Loren doesn't
> generally hang around when there's smoking going on;
> consequently, we don't hang out very often.  We
> played Clue and had a good time while you were not forced,
> but instead made the decision to go hang out
> upstairs with Bonnie.  You could have hung out with us.  And
> maybe Loren was hoping for the same thing you were,
> did you think of that?; that things would just blow
> over and you guys would be cool again.  It would be
> my guess that's why she stayed and not because she gets
> some sick pleasure out of making you uncomfortable,
> which is apparently what you think.  She was being
> very genuine in her attempt to converse and be
> social. It was not part of some greater plan to betray and
> have power over you. 
>
> As for the night of drinking...Kenney and I were at
> work and talking about how long it's been since he's
> drank and how he hasn't gotten trashed with either
> me or Loren for several years.  This was Friday.
> Kenney was under the impression that this bonfire that you
> guys were going to was Friday and not Saturday.  So,
> when Kenney got off work, he tried calling Loren but
> got no answer.  Kenney and Randy met me at work at
> 11 and we walked back to your house, where it became a
> night of smoking rather than drinking.  This was a
> spur-of-the-moment thought and it didn't pan out,
> and for the better apparently since you were going to be
> home, seeing as how Kenney had the wrong day for
> your bonfire in mind.  So, you really have no
> justification in my opinion to be pissed or hurt about that
> considering we were trying to be respectful of your
> problem with Loren. 
>
> Now, about Loren...First of all, Loren doesn't
> really have much of a thing for Kenney.  She was definitely
> crushing on him for a while, but then she met
> someone and has been occupied since.  Loren is really more
> interested in spending time with her friends right
> now and she's known Kenney almost as long as I have.  I
> don't doubt that Kenney still has a thing for her.
> I can tell; I know what it looks like when he has a
> thing for someone.  But seeing as how Loren isn't
> exactly single, I sincerely doubt that what's going
> on between you and her has anything to do with what's
> between her and Kenney.  So you can eliminate that
> theory from you list of conspiracies, too.
>
> Now, in the spirit of keeping the lines of
> communication open, a few more things...First of
> all, I think from now on I'll be discussing things with
> people as I see fit, since you keep asking me to
> keep things between us and yet you can still share them
> with other people.  That's fine.  It's up to your
> discretion who you talk to, and mine who I talk to
> from now on, and that's just how it's going to be. 
>
> Secondly, I also think that you really need to stop
> talking to me about this Loren thing, like I've
> already asked you to.  Until you talk to Loren about
> this, nothing is going to be resolved and all you're
> doing by continuing to talk about this to everyone
> but her, is pitting friends against each other.  So, I
> don't want to hear it anymore?  Got it?  I happen to
> think that Loren has nothing to apologize to you
> for.  You messed up when you asked her to lie to me, but
> she doesn't 'betray' her friends so she didn't lie to
> me. She didn't start any drama.  For some reason, you
> still feel like you need to be mad about this whole
> thing, and if you want to be angry at anyone for
> starting the drama, then you should be mad at me and
> not her.  All she was doing was being a good friend
> to me by disobeying what you had asked her to do; it
> wasn't until days later when I talked to Bonnie
> about it that I decided to confront the issue.  Loren
> doesn't start drama.  So if you really think that
> you need an apology from her, then maybe you should
> think about giving her an apology as well.  Asking your
> friends to keep secrets from their other friends is
> just plain wrong so Loren is not the main blunt of
> the blame...Oh, and please don't attempt to lie to me
> about that again; it's getting very old. 
>
> Erin, you've got to stop this.  You've got to stop
> turning everything around as if to seem that we're
> out to get you.  No one has betrayed you, or sought to
> persecute you, or forced you to do anything.  You
> are responsible for the things that you say as well as
> the things that you don't say.  If you messed up, just
> take responsibility for it.  You're also responsible
> for choosing not to talk to Loren about this problem
> in the opportunities you've had.  I thought I had
> already made my opinions on such matters clear to
> you in the past, but obviously you required a refresher.
>
> Now, please, stop this silliness, talk to Loren, and
> let the damned dead horse lay. 
>
> Just so you know, I'm trying my best to remain
> neutral in this little cross-fire.  If you keep this up, I
> will no longer be able to stay neutral, and I'd
> really rather that didn't happen.  Please take care of this
> already; the next time I hear you mention it, it
> better be after you talk to Loren.
>
> C